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No Regrets

How I felt at the time…

Nervous, relieved, disconnected.

How I feel now…

I feel that I made the right decision for me.

Who did you tell?

My best friend and my then boyfriend.

My story…

I was young, and though abortion was a difficult decision, I chose to go through with it without a second thought. A hard decision to make, but I knew it was the right choice for me. Not hard because I thought I might want to keep the baby, but more so because I was afraid of the aftermath. The aftermath of whether or not I would live to regret it when I actually got married and had kids that I was “supposed to” have. How would I feel when I look at my children in the future? Is that when I would feel the sadness? Because though it was a dark time in my life back then, I can honestly say I was not sad about the decision I made, but more thankful that abortion was an option to me as a young woman (who still lived under her parents’ roof).

Coming from an extremely conservative background, I knew without a doubt in my mind that it would cause major issues and chaos within my household, so my friend came with me to get it done. Thank goodness for her. My deadbeat [then] boyfriend didn’t even care to come to support. He was too busy getting high to be on time to come with me. Just another confirmation that I was doing the right thing.

I know that I could have had the baby and given it up for adoption as many women do, but I was pretty sure there was no way I would be getting out of my parents’ house without a severe beating, or at least a bruised or broken limb. My parents chose physical discipline as their method of child rearing. Not always, or often for that matter, and definitely never did they hit me for no reason, but when they really thought I deserved it, out came baseball bats, tennis raquets, or whatever large or painful object they could find to show me I have done wrong and to think about my actions. They came from a whole different culture where that was perfectly acceptable and there was no doubt in my mind that I was going to get it pretty badly if they found out I was pregnant, not to mention they would probably try to get me to make the same decision (abortion) in the long run.

I remember one day before the procedure I was casually telling my mom I wasn’t feeling so good, and she asked half joking if I was pregnant. It was an eerily weird moment during that whole phase, especially because I had just found out I was pregnant. I will never forget that. I was too early to be showing but her maternal instincts were right on point.

Though it may seem like it was a selfish decision to some, I can truly say I have absolutely no regret of going through with it. I was too young to have a child of my own. I still had college to experience and wanted to make something of myself so that oneday I could raise a family and provide for them the way they needed and deserved.

What I do regret? Not always practicing safe sex with my deadbeat ex-boyfriend…

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